It's Over

Let me tell you what I hear when someone says to me "It's over." I hear,"I'm going to be sleeping with everyone else but you." I hear,"I don't find you attractive anymore." I hear,"You've just wasted your precious, you're never gonna get back years with me." And I hear "If only you had done this or done that, it wouldn't be over." Those two words: it's over translate into numerous dialogues and meanings in my head creating this stalker like obsessive being, who I am so not in reality, but quickly become when my other half becomes my ex half by saying "it's over."

As I walk away from the dreaded two words "it's over" swearing men and dating off, committing only to meaninglesss, passionate one night stands....I know that as soon as my eyes meet the eyes of the next Mr. Yum Yum, that that vow of swearing whoever and whatever off, will soon be forgotten. And just like a kid who forgets the pain of scraping his knee after falling off his bike and gets back on, I too, will forget my pain and hop back into the game of dating.

Girl Time And Eye Candy

My girls and I meetly weekly. We have a weekly date where we catch up on gossip and check out the local eye candy. Most importantly, it's "our face time" with oneanother. As we took turns updating oneanother of the happenings of our life which included but didn't end at: grad school, job interviews, new exercise programs, the various mens in our life, who's in a 12 step program, who's not in a 12 step program but should be, the sale at Bloomies, Tiger's love child (I'm still trying to get over that one) it was clear that topic of choice always ended on the same topic or should I say topics: career and love.

I've been told that we only have two real problems in life ever: Romance or Finance which mean love or career. The first time I heard this I thought it was brilliant, absolutely brilliant. But the more I thought about it, it seemed too simple to be brilliant. After all, if these really were the two main problems anyone could have, then why weren't more people happy? I mean, they were only two problems. Analyzing what romance and finance represented to the human being a little further, I could see that having an answer to these two issues could in fact provide a good down payment on happiness, on sustainable happiness. How many times have you thought, if only I made this amount of money or if only I had that special someone? Now you don't have to answer out loud, but be honest with yourself and it really is okay if you say ALL THE TIME. You are not alone.

Romance and Finance. Two things that make you go hmmmmmmmmm.

Is Dating A Waste Of Time

A guy once told me that he thought dating was a waste of time. As he continued to explain why, I actually kinda agreed with him. He went onto to say that in the first three months of dating each person was on their best behavior. The next three months were spent realizing that the first 3 months were an act. And the following three months were spent by the couple in question realizing that they never liked eachother to begin with. So when I heard this, it kinda made sense. But dating is what we're "supposed" to do to find "the one."

I've been dating since I was fifteen. Well, I don't know about proper dating but I've been engaging in some kind of behavior with the opposite sex since I was fifteen, ok since I was twelve but who's counting? Look, I love men, I love sex, I love the idea of being taken out on the town all dolled up, I love the idea of love....I love, love. I've even been told I am in love with being in love. But it goes back to my original thought. Is dating a waste of time? And if dating is a waste of time, what are the single ladies to do? And don't say put your hands up!